BlueSea - is your H going to address his sexual assault of you in his IC? Do you feel safe?
I have been reading along with your thread and was so shocked and upset by that event - and scared for you - that I hardly knew what to say. That feels to me like such a huge huge deal - so much more so than his cheating (which of course I don't take lightly - I don't mean it that way) - it seems to me like if this is a man who is remorseful for raping you, he would be living apart from you, in sustained, deep therapy and some kind of domestic violence or sex offender perpetrator programme. That he would be taking full and total responsibility for his action, calling it what it is, and if he even imagined there was a 1% chance his decision to rape you was triggered by the supplements he was taking (I have no idea if those things are related) then he would be committing to never taking them again - lifelong abstinence.
I have no expertise or experience in this area but it seems to me this is a matter that outweighs all others. I wish you the very very best. My heart hurt when I read your thread and I am posting this here only because I worry about your safety and I think that perhaps dealing with the aftermath of a marital rape probably falls outside the remit of this board.
