Trying to Detach

[may22]

I think you're still controlled by what you imagine his response is going to be - you don't want to express your needs in case he feels controlled. You shouldn't control him, but expressing your needs without making a demand is not controlling. Personally I don't think there's any point expressing your needs to a partner you are not in a committed relationship with though.

I think you’re right. Even with MC when I had the transparency questions, H literally didn’t even want to hear them or have me write them down for him to read. Now that seems pretty bizarre. He didn’t want to even formally know what they were, yet. (And of course the temporal alignment between the transparency conversation, FINALLY, and reengagement with AP a few days later is hard for me to ignore or assume is a total coincidence).

I guess what I’ve been thinking about is whether or not to say my piece about him needing to delete WhatsApp and block her number and email before the trip. It seems juvenile not to just tell him what I am asking for and then see if he does it, or not.