Dear wooba. I'm so sorry to hear that your H has decided to change his attitude, at least for the moment. And cancel your credit card and remove access to his account without a discussion. Ugh. I know how you feel about adding to your parents' stress as well. It seems he might be desperate to have some control over something, and as you counseled me once, money can give him that sense of power. It's good that you have the L consult scheduled--focus on that, which will hopefully reveal some options for you.
Pretty sure I missed the boat on my H feeling guilty, which was pretty much only for a week or two after BD if that, though even then he felt entitled to the house. I try not to worry about what the future holds with that or imagine looking back and wishing he would have acted quickly on the D, because, again, he chooses his behavior, and that is true of your H too. So try not to spend too much time thinking about the past.
Like may, I was thinking your H has tended to last out at times and act the bully and then settle down again for a bit. This may be the case again. You are cool and calm in response. What is that Jack_Three_Beans sticky in MLC land? The MLCer is going to swing around, but you are not going to be there to get hit. You've already got that down. ((wooba))
