Doing my thing & moving forward

[may22]

Hi Wooba,

I'm so sorry this is happening. But if IIRC there have been times in the past where he's flashed this ugly side (isn't he an attorney? I seem to remember some points where he was saying things about how he knew the law and you didn't, or something?) I might recommend just not responding for a bit and yes, once you do, ignoring the ridiculous parts. And absolutely, consult your L to make sure you're as protected as possible. Are you planning to live abroad forever? Is there no way you can file in your home state?

I've been thinking the same thing about the leverage I have in moving now on D vs later. However, I also think that at least with my H, the likelihood (especially if I was at all contentious, got Ls involved, etc) is that the "deal" we've been talking about where I get the house and primary physical custody, was always too good to be true and it wouldn't end up that way once we got down to brass tacks. That is one of the reasons i've been thinking about a more informal post-nup to get things in writing now. My biggest thing is time with the kids, but I also know that custody arrangements can be altered at any time, so even if he is OK with this arrangement now, it is likely to change in the future. And I honestly can't imagine him being OK with less time with the kids.

You are incredibly strong, you know. This is a blip and you'll get through it. Don't let his swings affect you.