WW post D (Thanks BenB part 4)

[Mumin]

Thanks for posting Sandi, you know you have my heart and my full attention.
Nice to see you back on the boards and I agree with Steve about indy.

My question to you is, how do you envision meeting OM? Do you plan to ask him questions, in order to evaluate whether or not he is fit to be around your kids? Do you not think he would be instantly defensive, maybe making things worse (depending on the depravity of the individual)? What happens after you meet him? Talk to your WW about how it makes you feel?

First off I am completely aware I can only control and even influence 50% of my kids lives from now on. That I have understood and I thanks the boards once again!
If (a big if) I would meet him it would require a lot of preparation and it would mainly be about understanding a bit about who is. It would only require a brief interaction to get a first impression and I might say something about respecting the children. That's how I envision it.
Your comment on making things worse is definitely something I will think about.


What's the boards take on my proposed message to W about the house?