As early as one week ago you were ready to play the long game and then you snoop and read something you don’t like and you go back to wanting to force it.
I feel like you’ve lost your identity and you don’t know who you are right now. One minute your all about the kids and sucking it up for them, the next minute you have a great life planned out for the three of them and now you want to stroll down memory lane.
I am a proponent for the one last relationship talk but you’re not ready for it right now. You’re are not strong enough to say this isn’t working for you and communicating your expectations of what you want out of marriage and then walking if she won’t work towards meeting those expectations.
You’re a beaten man right now and are in no position to come from a place of strength.
