WW post D (Thanks BenB part 4)

[Mumin]

Thanks for everyone's responses! Thank you Steve, Ovr, MrB, CW, LH, Spiral!
I really appreciate everything you write. Like I mentioned earlier I am talking less and less about sitch with people so this forum is very important for venting and staying on course.

I think there may be some misunderstanding again. Anyway what MY thought on meeting OM was, was this.
IF she intends to introduce him as her new man and someone that my kids will live with, then it would be a good idea to meet him. Though as mentioned that is for the future.

Journaling and question (s):
Been working and taking time to myself the last few days, lots of gym, some reading and some golf.
Not as much work as I though so I have had brief moments of anxiety or sorrow when I had nothing to do.
Almost NC. Only contact was about kids.
She mentioned she is going abroad nest week. I just said: OK, have fun.
Then there was a video call with the kids, similar to the one last week when the kids were with me.
They were in the car and I was having coffee with my brother so it was very short.
Apparently they redecorated the house.


Last Sunday I found a paper from father in-law saying he will give her a advance on heritage and a sum of money.
Not enough to buy an apartment but substantial. My guess is she will just spend it.
However she still owes me like +$1500.

On top of this I have found a small house that would be perfect for me and the girls. They are not often for sale and they are showing it on the 9th of august.

I am considering typing something like:
I would like us to finish the economical parts of the D.
The longer we delay it the harder it will be.
You need to make a decision on the house first because that decides how we split almost everything else.
As things are now we have agreed will not work so I will look at a house on the 9th and if everything looks right I might want to make an offer.
You also owe me X and I saw you got some money from your dad.

Whats your thoughts on sending something like that?

(For others reading I have suggested (and arranged with bank) to buy her share of the house but I can only afford it at about 5-10% below market value.)