#17 - Being the best H and father I can be!

[SteveLW]

100% blind trust? I don't think a S should have that even in a MR where there was never an indiscretion. Blind signifies not being able to see if and when there are red flags. And we certainly see that with LBSs that come here convinced in their own mind that their WAS is not cheating. 100% trust I think is possible. But not blind. The minute we see something that makes us go "Hmmmm" we should be open to admitting to what we are seeing.

But can you go back to trusting a S, whether it is the cheating WAS or another S? I think so. As we like to say, consistent behavior over a long period of time can engender that trust once again. And certainly a new S that has never cheated can certainly be trusted unless and until they prove that they cannot be trusted.

Maybe you are asking about naivete? And again, I go back to the 100% blind trust. Being naive, or blindly trusting opens the door for indiscretion.

When I worked in retail they used to say: "15% of people will never steal no matter what. 15% will always steal no matter what. But the other 70% of people will steal if given the right opportunity or think they can get away with it." I think a similar thing can be said of married people. Will someone cheat if they think they will not get caught? The majority unfortunately probably would.