For those of you who have experienced the back and forth of monstering then kindness from your partners, is there any rhyme or reason behind it? We will have a decent, kind day together and then seemingly out of nowhere H becomes toxic again. I try to validate and get to the bottom of his anger (without losing this detachment I have been fostering and feeling deep within me lately), but I can’t always gain a toehold on the cause. Is he trying to push me away? I’m not really ‘there’ for him to push against at the moment. Is he dealing with his own sh*t and momentarily needs to take it out on me? It hurts me feelings, as a human being, even though I am detaching.
