Another question-- I'm thinking of drafting up a written agreement proposing what I would be asking for in terms of financial and child custody stuff and sitting down with him to review it. What do you guys think? If we got a post-nup in place, I'd feel a lot better about pursuing another job right now. Though figuring out how to do well at that job when I'm clearly not working all day but hanging out on these boards instead is going to be an issue
Yes, do this. Show him if you must, but don't ask for his input. "This is what I will be pursuing as a separation agreement." D is not a team sport! You should not ask a man you cannot trust to make promises he might not keep. Figure out what is fair and then pursue it through legal channels because you are entitled to it. He will be most agreeable while he is feeling guilty. As time goes on and the weight of his decisions presses down on him, there's a good chance he will turn angry again to justify what he has done. Ask me how I know
