What it looks like to me, May, is that he's ignoring you again and manipulating you to get what he wants.
You said you didn't want to go on the trip with him as a family, but after some thought, you decided he'd take the girls alone for some time away, and you might do that yourself too.
Since then, he's decided he doesn't want his mistress any more, but he hasn't taken any actual action to make that happen, and he's going full speed ahead to plan a trip you've already told him you don't want.
He is totally ignoring what you have said, has fed you a line, taken no action to back it up, and is pretending all is well in terms of he having what he immediately wants.
Choosing a D and choosing this trip and choosing to let him ride rough shod over a decision you've already made and communicated to him are totally different things.
