p.s I too have never been able to refer to EAP by name, only "your friend" or "that woman"!
Be careful with this thinking. While we like to focus our anger on the OP, your problem isn't with her. It is with him. I found using my W's EAP name was freeing to me. It made me realize that this person didn't care about me and I didn't are about them. Therefore there was nothing personal there. It was them wanting to be with my W. And my W is where the issue was for opening that door even if just a crack.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
