Still reading, still here, glad I could contribute "duck." That would make me feel anxious an cr@ppy too, may. Congrats! and also I'm sorry this offer can't just be an uncomplicated awesome thing for you. It s*cks the way these situations trickle into pretty much every aspect of our lives, even our careers. It does still mean you are a bad*ss and really good at what you do. Could this be a thing where you could choose to do some consulting with them in the near-future, and maybe another opportunity for FT would arise when the timing is better for you? Would a lawyer probably be in agreement with your coach? I hope your IC session is helpful!
Also, just nodding along with you and WF here:
Originally Posted by may22
And that just grinds me— that you can have all that history and all these years and the children and our lives together so entwined and yet not be willing to actually work on what went wrong, be ready to throw it all away and start fresh because trying is too difficult. As I write this, I wonder if this is maybe part of the reason I’m standing— because I do believe so strongly in the foundation of what we have and it is worth fighting for… much like you just wrote on your own thread.
YEP! I know thinking about the decision to just end it, no trying, forget the history, still gets to me, and it's something I'll have to work on letting go of. Another thing not in my control.
Originally Posted by may22
At some point I know I’ll have to ask WTF is going on with AP if he doesn’t volunteer it, because of this trip. But I’d really rather not.
Is this something you have to do if you'd rather not? How else could this trip look that maybe feels better to you? Do you want to go on this trip together right now, regardless of how H says he is feeling, or would you rather approach it in another way? Use it as time for yourself or time with H and the kids, and then with just you and the kids?
That would make me feel anxious an cr@ppy too, may. Congrats! and also I'm sorry this offer can't just be an uncomplicated awesome thing for you. It s*cks the way these situations trickle into pretty much every aspect of our lives, even our careers. It does still mean you are a bad*ss and really good at what you do. Could this be a thing where you could choose to do some consulting with them in the near-future, and maybe another opportunity for FT would arise when the timing is better for you? Would a lawyer probably be in agreement with your coach? I hope your IC session is helpful!
