I echo May's advice: if there is any way to get some space between you, I think it would give you both some much-needed breathing room to really figure this all out. I admire your strength and fortitude to go through all of this under the same roof as H, but I found so much clarity and self-awareness in the moments that I wasn't actually with my H. Is any way that you and the kids can escape for a long weekend, or maybe he would be agreeable to taking some space himself?
Also, YES to not having to make any decisions today. In fact, I wish I had waited longer during the swinging back-and-forth that my H has done over the past few months. I wish I stood up to his remorse and charms and allowed him and myself to see if it was truly real, or just words. You have nothing to lose by waiting or drawing this process out. We are more defined by our 'nos' than our 'yeses'. And I would also add that 'maybe, let me think about it' is perhaps on of the most powerful tools you have.
