If you wanted a new truck would you have to harrass your wife to give in to your desires of the truck you wanted if the pricetag was more than she was comfortable spending?
You imagine yourself more powerful than you were. He didn't have to harass you to get his dream truck. After you said, "[Here are] 3 different used trucks that fit a budget.. and suggested [he] test drive and figure out which of the 3 [he] liked the best..", he could have smiled and bought any truck he wanted that your bank accounts and credit covered. You wanted control. He let you control. Own your faults. Let him own his.
Absolutely my ex-W complained when I wanted to spend "too much" money. I no longer blame her for preventing me from buying X, Y, and Z. I realize that was a choice I made.
I see that... I truly do. And, yes he did those things to make me happy but over time began to resent me for it?
You are right. I came into his life and he handed everything over to me.... all his pw's to all his banking and just let me go as I saw fit.
Over time he wanted to have more say. He wanted to separate accounts but I wouldn't tolerate it. He had a separate account set up with weekly funds for personal use for how he saw fit and as our financial situation blossomed so did his weekly acct. When we first got married we could only afford it to be $10/week. He got up $75/week. This was smokes, gaming, etc. Any substantial purchases like hunting stuff, car stuff or just a big item he wanted was out of joint money.
He wanted to pay his own bills - he's doing that now and finding out that he thought he was going to have so much money now... he doesn't...
I wish I had listened to him and been more flexible when it was needed. But, I can't change the past I can only move forward.
