Living with a WAS/MLC husband...who does not care

[BlueSea]

Steve - I finally see and agree, that he has been emotionally gone for a long time. It took me awhile to see this and catch up. If there is an opportunity to say this "I would prefer that you do leave if you are going to continue behaving the way that you have." I will say it.

LH -- Can you explain a bit more on your point here: "You need to make things *worse* before they can get better"

Do I bring up what are his plans to leave?

I really am not sure how to handle this situation when its mentioned to give him lots of space - does that mean I ignore him?

We had that huge conversation last night, how does one transition from that to giving space. It's almost like giving him the green light to stay here and keep us all miserable while he 'decides' whatever he is deciding. And, if he is going to leave anyway - it would help me get my life started if he actually did leave. Wouldn't one want to make it just a bit miserable for him to stay?---- or is the point that he has to make that decision himself?

thank you!
BlueSea