I am a firm believer in painting the house while you still live there. It drives me nuts to paint it only when you're getting ready to move! Somehow clean, freshly painted walls are so, so soothing to me. In our old house, the old owner decided to do a really terrible paint job between the time we purchased it/inspected it and moved in-- we think he wanted to paint over some of the holes from art/TV on the wall-- and instead of actually trying he slapped on paint and didn't get all the way to the ceiling. We lived like that for YEARS, always staring at this horrible paint job and the gap between the paint and the ceiling. We only painted it when we got ready to sell and I wanted to cry when I saw the house all staged and beautifully painted. So I'm really glad you're taking this one on now. You deserve to enjoy them for awhile no matter what. I almost feel like it is symbolic in a way-- you're taking charge of that which is within your control and improving what you can. You're focused there. You're in no hurry. You're not ignoring your H-- you're tracking him and quietly making notes of his behavior and letting that help you towards your eventual decision. I am really happy for where you are right now. Re-reading your old threads also makes me feel more hopeful for myself-- this is a path we all need to take in our own ways, and we'll get there eventually.
How's your work situation? Are you in a new position now, and if so how is that feeling?
Me (46) H (42) M:14 T:18, D9 & D11 4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs 9/20 - present: R and piecing
