I recently went on a date who just got out of a 5 year relationship and he got into it with her before he was legally divorced. I chose not to go out with him again for that reason. Usually someone has major unresolved issues when they don’t take a second to heal or learn from their divorce .
And a guy who proposes while he’s still married??? HUGE red flag! It seems as if it’s his MO. Find a back plan when the primary plan isn’t working .
I know
I did not give a lot of details but it was like it was just meant to be. I kept trying to put on the brakes. I fell so hard and so fast and he was so happy for the longest time.
As I said I am not proud and I carry some guilt/shame. And, frankly this was unfair to my step kids. I can't change the past. I do try to own it.
I recognize my controlling behaviors and how dismissive and disrespectful I was of my H. I'm in a pickle of my own making. I would give anything to not lose my H or my M. I guess that's clear.
Today I've definitely been driving the struggle bus. I know I have to drop the rope and walk away.
