So you are considering giving him access to the money thinking it would delay and/or stop the D?
I am still following my atty's advice.
But, I feel that if he had those funds he might not be pursuing anything else at this time. I think he desperately needs cash/funds and feels these are 100% his. I think he burned through his half of the emergency fund that was divided months ago.
As for D... I've managed to deal with a lot of crap thrown my direction but to me D is final. He had some weird thing he talked about shortly after BD that his friends were telling him its possible that we could get back together after D since we don't hate each other... it was weird but I'm like if you can't sit down and work through this with me now I would never trust that you would put in the work needed to commit to being remarried.
I walk when D is final.
I suppose that is why I've put undue pressure on myself and him to find a resolution before that step - stupid I know. I can look back and see that I should have just left him alone and stopped taking his calls some time ago.
