WW post D (Thanks BenB part 4)

[MrBrside]

You're idea of talking to OM is really a good idea. Thank You!
Though I would need some real mental preparation for something like that.

Really - The outcoming being what ?

Even if he is a total jerk, you have very little say in what your WAW does when she has the kids. Hence you cant control it, and you will just get yourself worked up further.

You guys helped me process this with some logic and reason.

Sorry, but there is no logic or reason here. You are frustrated / angry about OM meeting the children - Get it, but if thats what the WAW wants, thats what she will do - regardless of you or what you say.

So i will just come back to my previous post !

You cant control her, so why try - let her crash down in front of the children... They will see it eventually and make their own minds up. The focus is you being the better parent - Learn from her screw ups and be the rock.

drop the control - you can't !

Watch and learn ! Let her be the &^&* with multiple partners - The kids will see it, and respond accordingly. You watch, listen and learn from what you see - and then when you eventually do meet your next partner, you don't act the way she did.. Dopamine and butterflys will tell your head one thing - you reflect back on this and ensure you stay the rock for the children.