WW post D (Thanks BenB part 4)

[Mumin]

Thanks for reading and replying Steve!
At work so will be short.
I wasn't clear in my post.

I am not going to try to enforce the 2 week rule. I have given this a lot of thought and as you say its about my emotions towards W and OM more than about my kids. MAybe the guy is great. What do I know.
From my previous snooping (+7 months back) I don't think so though. But I cant know.
I believe there will be an OM2 and 3 etc but maybe they will stick together and be married. I cant know.

You're idea of talking to OM is really a good idea. Thank You!
Though I would need some real mental preparation for something like that.

The message I mentioned is definitely not done and absolutely something I will run by the forum before sending.
Probably I wont send everything all at once. Maybe I'll only send one of the points now and other later. We'll see.
I just wanted to mention it here as something I am working on.

So again, to be clear.
You guys brought me to clarity. I will not be trying to enforce the 2 week rule.
Its not out of my system completely and maybe it should be "I would like to meet him".
Not sure I mentioned it but this rule/boundary/expectation is something me and my IC discussed in January when I was in panic mode and since then I haven't really processed it in detail. That + not fully detached (that will take time) is probably why I got hung up on it.
You guys helped me process this with some logic and reason.
So of course she will date. OF course my kids might get to a point where they do have a step-dad. I am fully aware of this. In general I don't think it is stupid or strange to have an agreement on these things for a divorced couple. In fact I expect any sane person to understand this. Realizing my W isnt sane I MIGHT voice an opinion about it (as LH put it) but it will NOT be the 2 week rule.