Dilly-D, wow, just getting caught up :-0 Bravo, sister!

I am so glad to read you are getting along and moving forward! Even if this new guy doesn't turn out to be anything long term, why not have some fun and enjoy yourself a bit. I know it's a very anti-DB thing to say, but I do feel that when we get to a certain point in this process that dating can be a good thing! If anything it can be fun to just meet new people, get your mind off of the ugliness of the sitch (GAL) and it is a reminder that yes, there are other people in the world that want us. Mostly, it helps with detachment. Sometimes I think I should have done more of that during my separation when I had the opportunity. lol. As long as you are honest with the other person and not leading them in any wrong direction, I don't think there is some long amount of time a person needs to wait, as it is different for each one of us.

My BFF ended a longer term R after 15 years and this man was with her and her son (5-15 year old) but they did not end up getting married. It took a few years for her to end it completely. She was hesitant to start online dating, but did with encouragement. It seems like the less expectations she had, the more light and fun she kept it. She dated/talked to several guys for about a year. The last year she ended up meeting someone that she has been with for over a year now and he is a much better match for her than her previous partner. She has some regrets about staying with him for those 15 plus years, but she doesn't think about it much now.

Sounds like your H is far from looking at his issues or working things out with you. The dog thing is strange for sure. I hope your kids don't feel replaced -- that is sad to think about. And I do hope you are keeping good records of his earnings and spending as it doesn't sound like he has been honest.

Glad to see you are moving forward and feeling good about it. I wish you the best!

Blu

Last edited by BluWave; 07/05/20 10:04 PM.
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