I second CW here. You did nothing wrong. He is taking every tiny chink of your vulnerability and getting his fingers under it - as you said earlier.
And a civilised divorce can be many things. For some, it will be shared Christmases and summer holidays with new partners. With others, it will be the sexy, mysterious woman in the big expensive sunglasses who is utterly unavailable to the man who she used to be married to. You will find your own way. Where you are right now is a station on the way to your destination, not the final place.
