((Hugs)) I've been following daily and I'm sorry your journey is going this way.
I give 2x4s in some situations, but you're incredibly self-aware. You realize his offer of two 5-day trips is reasonable (something I'd have no qualms saying yes to if my ex-W asked) and a 30-day trip is not.
I get your point. You were prepared to say "No" to a 14-day plus vacation, so when he offered a 5-day vacation, you repeated "No". You want him to know your "No" is serious when it comes to enjoying OW and having a family life with you. Although, he's sorta doing that now, enjoying virtual contact with OW.
Originally Posted by May
I know that having an H choose to stay in an M because he is afraid of his W being too unreasonable in a D situation is not what I want, either.
You also don't want to be the one to pull the trigger. You want him to choose for himself.
I suspect, in his mind, you or your actions will always be responsible.
Originally Posted by May's H
I'm waiting for some big new factor to sweep in and make it easy. Your anger is a new factor and big.
Have you considered you each going on separate 5-day trips with the kids?
Maybe you take the one you planned and dreamed about first, and then he can do whatever he wants, which probably entails coming up with his own plan because the kids would be bored to do the same thing twice.
