MHO a new father/mother figure.. and is around or lives in the childs home.. I think in some cases the "new parent" is actually a bigger change/impact on their lives than their original parents breaking up
Mumin, you're making fantastic leaps. D3 saw mommy going on a trip with a guy. D3 didn't see a "new father figure", "step dad", etc. Maybe he will become that. When that's real, that's when you deal with it.
Originally Posted by Mumin
(=someone who spends time with the kids.. ) should be introduce very slowly and with a huge amount of respect.
Introducing him briefly as a background guy on a video call one time seems slow enough.
Originally Posted by Mumin
Is it the opinion here that post D you don't say how you feel or think about things to the WAS? because that's the vibe I'm getting.
Well, yes and no. She's not your partner--your feelings and opinions no longer matter. If you have some info she should consider when making decisions by all means share. Then, step back, and let her make her own choices as a competent parent. Her choices may not be the same ones you'd make, and that's okay. If her care falls below a baseline level you can always involve child protective services or the courts.
Originally Posted by Mumin
I see a lot of suggestions to move to email only. That sure indicates strictly formal communication. It would mean I don't have to see or hear OM.
If it helps you slow down and be less emotional, that's a great idea.
