A gain very true! Thanks ginger.

However I still believe for young children it is very important and serious
IMHO a new father/mother figure (=someone who spends time with the kids and is around or lives in the childs home) should be introduce very slowly and with a huge amount of respect. I think in some cases the "new parent" is actually a bigger change/impact on their lives than their original parents breaking up.

Still might say something about this to her.
Or, just not use video.

So I understand:
Is it the opinion here that post D you don't say how you feel or think about things to the WAS? because that's the vibe I'm getting.
I see a lot of suggestions to move to email only. That sure indicates strictly formal communication.
It would mean I don't have to see or hear OM.


Me: 34
Stbxw: 30
D:5 D:3
Mini bd: May/June 2019
Married: Aug 2019
BD: 6th Dec 2019
OM Confirmed: Feb 2020
March 2020: I filed for D
Waiting for D to be finalized and W to move out end of January 2021