kind of tried to talk to her last night about things. I know I shouldn't have. She now says Im manipulating her and trying to control her
Well, wasn't your goal in trying to talk about things to change her behavior?
Originally Posted by Newbie12
And says she is going to file a police report about me harassing her, but won’t if I move out.
Inform your attorney. I didn't see anything in your version of the story that amounts to legal harassment in most jurisdictions. Don't allow her to frighten you into taking actions contrary to your interests.
Originally Posted by Newbie12
This is all because I will not move out and it feels like I am punishing my kids because they are having to move out, well not having to, she is choosing to move out.
You're both entitled to 50/50. Therefore, if you moved out the kids would spend 50% at your new home and 50% at the family home with mom, and with her moving out the kids are spending 50% at her new home and 50% at the family home with you. The kids are 50% staying and 50% moving out either way.
If you're accepting less than 50% custody--why?! Talk to an attorney to fix that pronto.
She took the kids. What day do you get them back? Your parental rights aren't to see/visit your kids they are to have 50% custody of your kids unless you're unfit for some reason.
Originally Posted by Newbie12
wants to have no contact with me at all.
That is entirely possible. My GF chooses never to see her ex-H during handoffs.
Originally Posted by Newbie12
So all I can do now is get my head down and focus on me and being the best dad I can be.
Great plan! I hope you do whatever is necessary to be an equal parent in your kids' life. Don't be that nice guy who gets talked into every other weekend and a Wednesday overnight and then regrets it.
