Wooba, take how ever much time you need and don't just look at it as the easy way. It's not. At least not when you're not in denial about what's happening. Knowing the extent to which he's a dbag and biding your time while you balance your books and figure out your path forward isn't, not doing the right thing. The right this is what ever is best for you and your kids. You are in such a healthy place emotionally. You're learning how to navigate the single mom life with grace. You are physically and financial separated. And if you aren't feeling pursing the D right now, so be it. You have accepted your marriage is over. You've accepted that you need to move on with your life. You've accepted that H is a walking dumpster fire. You're not in denial. You're not lying to yourself or your kids about where any of this is going by not filing tomorrow. If you're worried about the money and don't want the stress of a D while starting your new business it is totally ok to do nothing. You are self aware. You are self reliant. You are making moves. If in this one aspect you do nothing for a little while, oh well. Choosing to do nothing is doing something. Honestly in your position I'd drag it out as long as I could while I worked on that new life until it was stable on paper or I felt it was stable enough to go for the D. H doesn't seem in that much of a hurry. Take advantage of it. But that's just me. You gotta do you. I just wanted you to know the way I see it waiting isn't the wrong thing. Even if one of your motivators is being conflict avoidant. The right thing is what you feel is right for you right now.
