I guess when I said how would it feel to confront him with your truths, I was asking more about you than him.
If you are going to do it, less words are better.
'I don't believe that,' works. So does 'that's a very self-serving way to look at this, and I don't buy it for one minute,' or 'I don't plan on justifying my decisions based on what you imagine I might or might not do in the future,' or 'you are being very manipulative and I won't engage with that.'
You don't need to convince him to see things your way. You don't need to understand the intricacies of WHY he sees it the way he does. I only suggest you get it on the table that you don't buy his %^I( any more, and I suggest this because I think it will be good for your wellbeing.
