-I found out about my husbands affair on Feb 25th - Everything changed he went from a kind/nice husband to a mean/cruel/distant shadow of the man I once knew. -Spent a few weeks where he was trying to convince me that he could have both of us, he could compartmentalize, it would work. She was the best friend he ever had. -The next month, he made efforts (he said he stopped communicating with her), we were going on walks, talking - really getting along, good conversation - he is impressed at the changes I have made - and says he knows I have really have changed. He would say he loved me. He would say I had so many great qualities, as a person, as a friend. Then after a great Saturday night walking on the beach, Sunday a complete reversal - he was done - its over - he is going to leave - but he didn't. -He says he truly believes I have made fundamental changes, and that things would be better between us, but he does not love me or have that 'emotional' connection any longer. He is leaving. For the time he is here, he will continue to consider us...but he is no longer trying.
He exercises obsessively every day, takes testosterone shots, human growth shots, minoxidil for his hair line - and dressing in concert T shirts like a 20 yr old. And talking to me in a cold tone with cold uncaring eyes. He does not seem to care even for the kids. He is immersed in his affair.
-He went back to seeing the OW, I didn't know, but I caught him sneaking out of the house at night. Then an awful state of open marriage - living under the same roof - while he is in an active EA/PA - staying out all night a couple times of week to be with the OW. But enjoying the family life during the day. It's an open marriage and its painful, and its right in my face. - I finally threatened a 'decision' - this is when he cut it off with the OW. June 11th (Have not seen him go out at night, he says its over. I don't really know) - Biggest change is he is now aware and nice to the kids, and trying hard to be their very best buddy at all costs - He treats me poorly, is unkind and cruel - his pendulum has swung from nice guy to extreme jerk. I try to DB, but I know I am not. Just struggling. His moods are erratic, an MLC is much like a late life puberty.
M:50 H:49 D:16 S:13 M:23 T:25 BD: Feb 25th 2020 EA/PA: Dec 2019 - June 11, 2020 Behind every broken woman is a broken man...
