My guess? Anytime you get a text notification you think it is him, and are disappointed when it is not. Then when it really is then "you knew it was him".
I never think its him... sometimes people just have intuition. I've been blessed with that in my life... I'm not saying daily and maybe a lot of it is premonition??? I have these weird freaky occurrences sometime... some are bizarre. At certain times in my life they happen more than others. I may go a decade with nothing... and then suddenly its happening frequently.
I'm not religious and I'm not overly spritual but sometimes I give it to the universe. Most of the time it makes me laugh.
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So while you feel like the funds being tied up are a hindrance, really the D being stalled is really where the hindrance is. I get you don't want to do his dirty work. We often tell LBSs not to. UNTIL the time is right. So how much longer are you willing to wait? 6 more months? A year? 2 years?
Steve its not even been 4months since BD. No, I'm not at a place to emotionally carry out the burden of HIS D. I don't know what he wants for his future. Of course if he wants remarried he is going to have to end this one first... and that might very well be what motivates him to get an atty.
I know 100% certainty that I am not ready to pull the trigger. I will not be goaded by anyone to do so. I'm not a fool. I understand that I do still have hope that this is not the end of our story.
While its taken time for my heart to catch up with my head. I can only control myself. I can only focus on myself. I'm reminding myself daily to stop focusing on the M. Either he gets his crap together or he just doesn't. In the meantime I'm planning several solo vacations and trips.
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As far as what you have to lose due to home equity, what you should really want is a fair settlement. Even if that means you get less cash due to the home equity. My W wanted to walk away with nothing. I insisted that we would split everything down the middle, 50/50, because that was fair.
i wasn't implying that I wasn't wanting to be fair. Its just he keeps throwing out that he had these funds before the M. What i was trying to say is that I also brought funds to the M... I already owned and was living in the house I have before the M. Those funds are more than the funds of this account.
Either way I've spent more time on this issue than I planned today. Off to exercise and then the pool.
