What to do? Stay or go?

[Ready2Change]

...but obviously I don’t want to just have my kids for 50% of my life.

None of us here do. A lot of us have that, myself included. At the end of the day it will be the mothers choice if she chooses to divorce you.

I believe in family and if you choose to be married and have kids, then that was you choice and whatever happens you make it work, not just for the kids as I don’t think anyone should be miserable in a marriage.

Again, we all have this belief in common.

But you talk, you talk and talk until you come to a solution.

After being here for so long, I have changed my belief about talking. This is an extremely complex issue. You change the way you interact with her. You change the way you behave around everyone, especially her. She has lost her attraction for you. There are traits that you have that she is attracted to, but there are more that she is not attracted to. Drop the unattractive traits. Pick up new attractive traits. Confidence and respect are at the top of the list. Now is the time to reinvent yourself. Be the best you possible.