The only thing that I am scared of with not moving out is that she says she will just move out and take the kids with her. That’s not what I want.
Burn this into your new behavior: Do not let fear control you.
Knowledge is power. I would get legal advise. If you then see any signs that she is going to leave you can start acting (legally) to protect your relationship with your children. That is what is important. Your relationship with your children. As their father you do everything in your power to protect that relationship. You also protect the relationship they have with their mother.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
