The only thing that I am scared of with not moving out is that she says she will just move out and take the kids with her. That’s not what I want. The house is mortgaged and in her name but we are married. The last time this happens she wanted space and I moved out to give her some but opposite scale. I moved out wanted to work on things, once I was out she didn’t even want to try. So as much as I want to stay put, i want my kids and her tbh to be here too.
We got on during the first 2 months of lockdown, which is crazy cause I know couples who were driving each other crazy. But we got on and then this out of the blue.
I am learning to detach. As I said it’s hard cause I’m finally at the point of wanting to finally fix any issues we have so we can actually start to make a future. Whereas she is not. She just uses the past against me.
I will keep reading the detachment link to keep myself straight.
