5) I am not wanting to break NC but I also don't want him sending me another text like Thursday telling me how I failed again.
Originally Posted by JosephS
5. Unless you’re willing to block him and remove him completely from your life you can’t control when he contacts you
As JosephS says, there are those control fantasies again. You control whether you block, mute, or respond to his texts. You were touching the stove less when you had him muted and were attempting to slow down communication. You don't control when or what he texts you.
Originally Posted by KitCat
I can not handle being a go between him and my atty for a D that I never wanted.
Yes! Was it thread #1 or #2 where we recommended directing him to your attorney for any legal and/or financial questions? I hope you follow through on this!
Note, you don't control whether he uses an attorney or represents himself to release those funds. You do control if you circumvent your own attorney by contacting ex-H directly.
Originally Posted by KitCat
I will let this drop unitl he contacts again.
No idea what that means. He texts once, you ignore, he texts twice, you respond?!
If you have not told him all financial and legal questions should be directed to your attorney, be clear and do that once. End any games where he has to do X or Y to get you to respond, e.g. contact you a certain number of times. If you have told him already then there's no reason to break no contact to reply next time.
