Actually I don’t think 35 and 29 are young at all to be married. Also to your point 90% of all non abusive relationships could be improved with counseling if both partners are onboard.
Steve I think you really need to question what type of person your W is to quit on your marriage after two years. I think you are going to see this as a blessing in disguise years down the road.
Fair on both. On the first one, yes, I don't think we were young overall, but rather given our respective backgrounds (both went to grad school, both very career-oriented, etc.) it's fair to say that I was further along in my overall life development than she was, and certainly had more experience in long-term relationships. But yes, it's not like we were 20.
On the second point, yeah, as I find myself feeling more anger about the situation, this certainly comes up a lot. I wasn't perfect by any means, but two years is a very, very short amount of time. (It's actually the root of my embarrassment and hurt over the situation, to be honest.) I don't think she by any means gave everything she had to making it work.
Either way, the lesson is the same: this really, REALLY sucked, but it's caused me to learn and grow so much. I am stronger because of it.
