kml - Tina Turner is an amazing, inspirational woman. I completely agree with your thoughts on love. Love is a verb, not a noun.
May - your sitch sounds incredibly hard to handle, but you are doing so well. I don't know what I would have done if X had refused to leave or tried to come back. Taking space in every possible dimension was key for me. You don't want to be stuck in the same place a year or two from now. It's unsustainable.
HaWho - thank you for validating, it was really hard for me to admit to myself the nature of that relationship. I don't believe that people set out to harm other people (for the most part, psychopaths and some cluster B personalities excepted) but that's not an excuse for abuse.
