Its one of those cases where you know your own thinking is wrong yet have trouble circumventing it due to engrained patterns. I've made peace with the fact that D is likely going to happen and that its probably the better outcome for me. There is still shame internally from myself, probably from things I heard from relatives as a kid.
H37, W37 D4, S2 ILYBNILWY 9/19 BD 9/19 EA discovered 10/19 Currently in limbo, no D or S process initiated