Yeah I would consider it a gift that he told you how he was feeling. He's a very weak man in that he couldn't break away from your control without another woman involved.
Now how you use the gift is up to you.
Your personality type is exhausting and it is gonna take a really long time for him to burn through the resentment that he has built up towards you.
The good news that since he hasn't fixed himself he very well may have attracted a controlling OW.
