Positive response It’s good you realize you were micromanaging and displayed controlling behavior. It’s good you realize you need to make yourself happy.
The not positive response and I mean this in the kindest way possible.
You’re still doing the exact same behaviors. Nothing’s changed. You still trying to control him with kindness and temptations. You still refuse to take the advice from anyone on here. You still think this is all about your H and getting him back. It’s not. It just isn’t. It’s about making you the best version yourself. And until you do it for you, these behaviors won’t be real. They won’t be sustained and your marriage would just crumble again over time. You need to learn to be happy with you. Be happy by yourself. Have confidence and real self esteem that’s not tied to someone else. Would it be wonderful if he had an awakening? Yeah sure, but it’d be even sweeter if you did. There’s a reason LBS divorce bust the right way, the true way and their spouses want to come back and the LBS doesn’t take them.
The definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over and expecting a different result. I’m not saying your crazy. Far from it. You’re obviously heart broken and stuck. And we all feel for you. We can feel your pain in your words. But you’re in a rear wheel drive car stuck in mud pit and you can’t stop smashing the accelerator.
Last edited by JosephS; 06/27/2005:46 PM.
Me: 40 EX:37 Together 17 years Married 16 years 5 kids, 20,18,15,14,11
