Pack, these R talks you have with her, ask yourself if they're really necessary at this point? They certainly don't seem to be helping. How many more times do you wish to explain to her that you are there as her plan B whenever she feels like it?
Talking about wanting to repair the damage you have done and asking her if divorce is her plan since you can't have conversations about the two of you, are those things that you should be talking about to her right now? Sandi gave you some great advice earlier and told you to stop trying to fight for your marriage yet those are the words you still use. GAL activities - great! But you do those for you, not as a strategy to fight for your marriage.
You still seem so focused on her when you should let her go and focus on you.
Me: 38 Stbxw: 35 No kids Mini bd: February 6, 2019 ONS confirmed Sept 7, 2019 Told her to move out: September 8, 2019 W moved out: September 28, 2019 Divorce filed by me: September 23, 2019