KC, Truth be told right now you are coming off as nothing but the ex that can’t and won’t move on. It’s not attractive and being obsessed and a door mat won’t win anyone back.
There is no reason to talk to him at all. You have a lawyer, use it. He knows about the graduation party and doesn’t want to go. If he shows up it’ll be awkward and uncomfortable because he will have been guilted into going. What i really think you fail to realize is when it comes to your marriage and your sitch your feelings just don’t matter anymore to your H.
DB isn’t manipulation at all. It’s about getting yourself back. Making yourself happy and being able to live and thrive in your new reality. When that happens, you become confident, happy and attractive naturally without it being forced. That’s what catches your spouses eye. That’s what makes them stand up and pay attention.
I wish you luck but you’ve been reading self help books and thinking you can do this on your own when in all reality it doesn’t seem to be helping at all. I pray you get some IC.
Good luck with everything KC.
Me: 40 EX:37 Together 17 years Married 16 years 5 kids, 20,18,15,14,11
