DB is about slowing things down and giving it time... BUT ultimately every LBS who is trying to slow down D to give the sitch more time is in a way controlling their S .
Actually not even close.
DB is about taking the focus off the spouse and putting all the focus on yourself and your children. It's about getting out and reconnecting with old friends, restarting old hobbies or getting new ones. It's about working on yourself and making changes you want to make for you to become a better version of yourself. Its about giving them time and space to let them deal with their own issues. It's about creating a compelling vision on how you want to spread the rest of your life. If that attracts them back then great, its a decision you will have to make at that point. If it doesn't then that's ok too.
All your posts are 100% about getting your husband back. I know you have a son but the only thing I know about him is that he has a graduation party that you begging your H to go to it and your H pays his car. You are working out and lost 23 pounds for showing off in front of your H. You do your knitting and knitted him a sweater. Its all 100% focused on getting your husband back.
You are on a DB forum and you get advice from Steve85, AS, Thornton, Ginger, Job all who have seen 100s if not 1,000s of sitches and they all give you the same advice. Leave him alone. Move forward. Detach. Yet you end up going against the advice and do what you feel is right. That is very narcissistic.
