Well since you’re looking into the root of the problem. I am probably going to get yelled at by Thornton and I’m stating that I am NOT a trained psychologist but IMO your have some narcissistic traits.
Please understand that -
Fear 1 - afraid that H will move on (isn't every LBS afraid of that/?) Control the money... control my H... probably came out WRONG... it was the most concise thing to say. If I have the money... does he run off and rashly buy a house?... if I have the money... can I slow things down?
DB is about slowing things down and giving it time... BUT ultimately every LBS who is trying to slow down D to give the sitch more time is in a way controlling their S
I realize 100% there is nothing I can do to control my H --- I was more or less taking the blunt approach of breaking down why I controlled something and figuring out the fear behind it based on a book by L Doyle.
But sure... we all have narcissistic traits to a degree.
