kml - Would you have heeded their reservations though? My family was concerned about X's physical aggression and his control of our finances. They didn't mention it before the marriage. I'm not sure I would have heeded it either.
May - I left out the key summary of my wall of text. It should have gone in this paragraph:
Love is stupid and makes you act stupid - our spouses are proof of this. It doesn't matter whether or not I love him or whether or not he's always been an a$$hole. All that matters is that this relationship is not acceptable to me now. This person is not an acceptable partner for me now.
