A year on and standing 2

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Hi Steve,

Roger that on the validation part. Not enough detachment on my side perhaps due to this quarantine period and the slight improvement of attitude she has towards me.

When it comes to such situation and see her breaking down in tears, I'll just somewhat get engaged. From yesterday session, she admitted that there was a major instance which she knew it was not my fault but she's angry with me because she is giving herself a closure.

On that, I told her I understand how you feel although I do not think it is right to attribute to me. But I can't deny because these are your feelings and its real to you.

Other than that, it's kinda replay again but glad things stopped. But yesterday night, there was another bigger episode. Due to the wife's absence most of the time previously, my domestic helper kinda felt she had "risen through the ranks" as the primary care taker of the household. The original arrangement was that as we are staying quite near to our parents, my mother will supervise her and the chores when we are away. But recently, my mother could not be around due to her undergoing an operation and the helper was running the show.

So yesterday, because of my mother falsely blamed my helper of a small matter, the helper broke down and causes another round of hoo haaa in the evening. So the helper starts to claim that she's not good for us and wish to stop her service. The misunderstanding stems from a request from my wife on how certain things are to be done and it was not fulfilled.

At this timing, if the helper stops her service, its gonna create a big impact on our daily logistics and arrangement too. Then, I turned around and told my wife. Look. Now it's gonna be very difficult to get a new helper. And if the helper not gonna get over it and make peace, things gonna get pretty messy and troublesome. You may want to address this. She seems abit taken aback and interested in the whole situation (because previously I had been dealing with all these problems and resolving them).

I told her, this is trivia matter and end day, it's woman's problem. But its what I had been handling and keeping the peace here where u don't see it. But I think it would be good if you can help too. This kinda totally got her into the situation and soften abit overall.

But it was really a tiring day. I told my helper to just take a break today and tomorrow. Go relax herself as the quarantine order has been lifted. And I also told my wife that these 2 days had been bad. So I am intending to take the kids and family out for dinner this evening to brighten up everyone's mood. I just leave it at that to see if she like to join if not we would just go ahead.

For next on now, I think I should drill into the validations....