My mum was absolutely horrified when I eventually laid out the instances of rage over the years. X punched a hole in a door while we were renting my parents' apartment. Mum privately worried about that for years.
Mine never did anything like that - but if I had asked my family before my marriage if I should marry my ex (and if they had been honest, which I'm not sure they would have) - the answer would have been they had a lot of reservations. They could see his arrogance and the dismissive way he acted towards them when I couldn't. And that was a big red flag that I ignored.
