During this period, I recall a conversation where I asked him in exasperation why he hadn't yet decided to divorce if he was in fact "so done with me". He replied "fear of failure, fear of judgement, fear of expense". Nothing to do with me or S2. Just fear of consequences.
This hits the nail on the head. The WAS brain seems strange but simple. Mostly it’s just a lotta selfishness and fear. What a sad way to live isn’t it?
I am also thankful that my H willingly moved out shortly after BD. I didn’t even have to ask. It honestly made things so much easier for my children and me. Him moving out is about the only thing that shows that he still has some decency. But again, most likely he did not move out for the sake of us but simply because he needed to run.
You are lucky to have gotten out rather quickly. There is so much life to live still.
