A year on and standing 2

[SteveLW]

ToSmile, remember. Listen and validate. Listening and validating doesn't mean you agree with her, just that you understand how she feels.

Get ready for a fight now. You played your hand way to early. As she processes this conversation she will probably become more and more angry. And will now fight for 50/50 custody. Unless you have solid evidence of abuse or neglect, she is likely to get it. So lawyer up.

These kinds of discussions rarely, if ever, result in positive outcomes. That is why we say to avoid them.

Go read the validation thread.

Also on things like her proposal: "Wife then try to approach and suggest to me that perhaps we should share the helper thereafter. couple of days with me then couple of days with her when the children goes over." Feel free to deflect. "Hmmm, I'll need some time to consider that."

Then listen and validate.