I don't want a divorce II NEW THREAD Pt 17

[LH19]

You are right LH ---- I'm the one being manipulative.

I may not always be right but I am never wrong lol. (Corey Wayne joke)

I suppose I wanted to also prove to my H that I was not his XW. I was not going to act irrationally and destroy his personal effects. Maybe if I could remain calm, cool and poised he would walk away respecting me... wondering did he miss judge me?

If you want to reconcile, you're in a waiting game, and the only course of action that leads to reconciliation, IMO, is emotional distance and not actively trying to fix *anything* between you because that ship has sailed. That is quite literally all you can do, and that, my friend, is a very bitter pill to swallow.

Your right H is selfish. He doesn't even look at me like a person right now. He asks for this or that and I stuff it down and get it done (then come to vent here). You are right to call me out on my BS. I asked my H for a favor - testing his level of interest? to see if he would say no (because he could not say no to me previously)? Maybe all of that. So I got what I deserved there.

Oh that hot stove that you love to touch!

You are probably also right that he's siting up pretty tall liking his view point that I'm still under his thumb.

After all those years that you had the control he is enjoying being the puppet master.

I need to sit with my feelings. Yesterday was pretty painful. I need to remind myself that doing nothing is doing something. That so long as I remain in contact with him he gets all the time in the world to get over me.

You don't have to get over something you can have at anytime you want it. How can you change the dynamic.

Its time for me to toughen up.

You have been saying this for months now. I think it's time.